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McCain Institute Study Finds Shortcomings in Communication between Caregivers and Teens about Internet Safety

June 8, 2023 by Kelsey Syms

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McCain Institute study finds shortcomings in communication between caregivers and teens about internet safety

Teens want to talk about the issue and parents know they should…but they just don’t.

Parents and caregivers unfamiliar with gaming and streaming platforms.


As more focus is being placed on how much time teens spend on the internet, specifically social media and gaming – new research from the McCain Institute’s R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t campaign spotlights just how little parents and teens are actually communicating about the potential dangers that exist online. The study, titled The R.E.A.L. Talk: What parents and teens know they should be talking about, but aren’t, uncovered a serious lack of important conversations happening between parents and their kids regarding online grooming and risky behavior like sexting and sharing nudes. 

“The findings from this research highlight what experts in the online exploitation and human trafficking fields have long warned would happen due to increased time spent online during the pandemic. Our work confirms the urgent need to get accurate, actionable information about online safety into the hands of parents and teens,” says Kelsey Syms, program manager of Combatting Human Trafficking at the McCain Institute. “The R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t campaign serves as a go-to resource for parents and teens and remains committed to creating space and developing tools and resources to help users safely navigate the digital world.” 

Released in conjunction with National Internet Safety Month taking place throughout June, the findings shine a light on the need for more dialogue surrounding these important issues.  According to the research, almost half of parents and caregivers (45%) haven’t talked to their kids about sexting and sharing nudes online, and over a third (36%) said they haven’t discussed online grooming with their child. Yet, over 90% of caregivers believe these three topics are at least somewhat important to discuss with their children, including 8 in 10 caregivers who say they are “very important,” exposing a concerning discrepancy between parents’ beliefs and actions. 

Additionally, the study found that many parents are alarmingly in the dark about gaming and streaming platforms where chats with strangers often take place. Platforms like Minecraft, Roblox, and Discord had the highest gap between caregiver familiarity and minor usage. 

The McCain Institute identified significant barriers that must be overcome in order to create substantive dialogue on safe internet behavior. For instance, the main obstacle preventing parents from discussing sexting and sharing nudes with their children is the belief that their child is too young for such a conversation. And among those parents who have discussed the topic of sexting or sharing nudes, the risk of embarrassment was a top concern about having the discussion. Meanwhile, among minors, more than 25% feel that their caregivers’ unwillingness to talk about sexting or grooming is the main reason why they haven’t had these conversations.

“Having a conversation with your child about safe online behavior is more important than ever,” said Kristen Abrams, senior director of Combatting Human Trafficking at the McCain Institute. “As a parent, I recognize that it can be uncomfortable or challenging. However, it is vital that our kids know they can look to us for guidance and seek help if something goes wrong or makes them feel uncomfortable.” 


Key statistics


About the study

The nationwide study included 600 online interviews with minors aged 13-17 and 805 online interviews with parents and caregivers of 9-17-year-olds. The margin of error for the minors audience is ±4.0 at the 95% confidence level, while the margin of error for the caregivers audience is ±3.5 at the 95% confidence level. The margin of error for both audiences is higher among subgroups.


About R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t

The R.E.AL. Friends Don’t campaign increases awareness and educates parents, caregivers, and young people about online safety, and empowers parents to protect their children from harmful content, grooming, or online exploitation. The campaign employs an integrated suite of activities to reach those most at risk ranging from an online resource hub to billboards to influencer-driven social media campaigns, and public art.

About the McCain Institute at Arizona State University

The McCain Institute is a nonpartisan organization inspired by Senator John McCain and his family’s dedication to public service. We are part of Arizona State University and based in Washington, D.C. Our programs advance democracy and human rights, empower character-driven leaders, combat human trafficking, and prevent targeted violence. Our unique power to convene leaders across the global political spectrum enables us to make a real impact on the world’s most pressing challenges. Our goal is action, not talk, and like Senator McCain, we are fighting to create a free, safe, and just world for all.

About Arizona State University

Arizona State University has developed a new model for the American research university, creating an institution that is committed to access, excellence and impact. ASU measures itself by those it includes, not by those it excludes. As the prototype for a New American University, ASU pursues research that contributes to the public good, and ASU assumes major responsibility for the economic, social and cultural vitality of the communities that surround it.

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McCain Institute Reveals Public Art Installations at ASU MIX Center

May 30, 2023 by Kelsey Syms

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Public art installations unveiled in Mesa, AZ

The McCain Institute at Arizona State University (ASU) unveiled two public art installations at the ASU Media and Immersive Experience (MIX) Center. These works of art are part of the McCain Institute’s R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t campaign, aimed at raising awareness, educating caregivers and teens about online safety, and protecting children from harmful content, grooming, or online exploitation.

The installations were designed by local artists at I AM Undefined Art and Xico, Inc. and guided by young people at the Boys & Girls Club – Grant Woods Mesa Branch and one•n•ten. The artwork intends to provoke thought and foster dialogue among community members about safety in the digital world.  


About the project

“The McCain Institute is proud to be part of the ASU community and deeply values our Arizona-based partners who have worked with us on this meaningful endeavor,” said McCain Institute Executive Director Dr. Evelyn Farkas. “Public art serves as a critical stimulus for the challenging, but necessary, conversations we need to have about the online safety of our children.”

“At Boys & Girls Clubs of Valley, we prioritize promoting the lifelong significance of making informed choices related to health and social concerns,” said Vice President of External Affairs & Business Partnerships for Boys & Girls Clubs of the Valley (BGCAZ) Josh Stine. “The mission of R.E.A.L Friends Don’t, which seeks to raise awareness among teenagers about online exploitation, aligns with this focus and delivers a crucial message to our young members, particularly considering the growing prevalence of media and online exposure.” 

“When Kelsey asked me to be a part of this project, I got chills. It was important to me to include youth voices in this piece by drawing and painting,” said I AM Undefined Artist Tiesha Harrison. “A piece of art from every youth who participated is included, representing everything from safety first to raising the topic to voices of youth. It was the most rewarding experience.”

Recognizing that the demand for accurate, actionable information about online safety is high, the McCain Institute created R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t and employs an integrated suite of activities to reach those most at risk of exploitation, ranging from an online resource hub to billboards to influencer-driven social media campaigns, and most recently public art.


Artwork Symbolism

Restoring Our Energy
Xico, Inc. 
2023

Restoring our Energy is an honest and inspiring representation of the digital world that today’s youth are growing up in. 

Guided by the teens at one•n•ten, the symbolism within the artwork represents their desires to turn negatives into positives, break free from toxic thought processes, and be open to growth. The young figure mesmerized by social media is representative of many teenagers, while the book and eyes represent knowledge and the desire for education and mentorship. Surrounded by color and movement, the phone reminds us that the world is at our fingertips.  

The mountains, sun, and music notes represent forms of self-care and ways in which the teens choose to recharge their social battery by listening to music and spending time in nature. Beauty and healing are denoted through the aloe plant and roses, while the stained-glass motif and vines exemplify restoration and the beauty that can be formed from something broken. 

The stairway demonstrates consistent growth and support, and the mural is brought together by the wings of freedom and a guiding compass for direction and hope. 

Restoring our Energy was co-designed by lead artists Diana Calderon and Martin Moreno, with youth participants from one•n•ten. 

I AM ‘Online Safety Awesome’
I AM Undefined Art – Tiesha Harrison
2023

Sun we look forward to brighter days when our youth are safe from exploitation and human trafficking. 

Safety First The campaign is abuse online safety and what to look out for when interacting online. 

Megaphone Empowering teens 

Shirt Symbols of Arizona: saguaro cactus, Engelmann’s hedgehog cactus, prickly pear, and cactus wren.

Lightbulb ‘R’ for realize predators pretend to be someone their not 

Books ‘E’ for educate youth on who is most at risk 

Question Mark ‘A’ for ask questions! If it does not feel right, follow your intuition and let an adult know 

I AM ‘Online Safety Awesome’ was designed by Tiesha Harrison, with youth participants from Boys and Girls Club – Grant Woods Branch & Teen Center. 


Media Coverage

New art aims to start conversation about online teen exploitation —  ABC 15 – Arizona

Murals unveiling at MIX Center project an important message — ASU News 

Lawmakers, state and local, renew push to protect kids while online — FOX 10 – Arizona 

3 artists works at MIX address online safety — Mesa Tribune 


About the McCain Institute at Arizona State University
The McCain Institute is a nonpartisan organization inspired by Senator John McCain and his family’s dedication to public service. We are part of Arizona State University and based in Washington, D.C. Our programs advance democracy and human rights, empower character-driven leaders, combat human trafficking, and prevent targeted violence. Our unique power to convene leaders across the global political spectrum enables us to make a real impact on the world’s most pressing challenges. Our goal is action, not talk, and like Senator McCain, we are fighting to create a free, safe, and just world for all. 

About Arizona State University
Arizona State University has developed a new model for the American research university, creating an institution that is committed to access, excellence and impact. ASU measures itself by those it includes, not by those it excludes. As the prototype for a New American University, ASU pursues research that contributes to the public good, and ASU assumes major responsibility for the economic, social and cultural vitality of the communities that surround it.

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Mural campaign goes live in Chicago

December 13, 2021 by Kelsey Syms

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Mural campaign goes live in Chicago

The McCain Institute for International Leadership at Arizona State University, in partnership with the Chicago Public Arts Group, unveiled their mural, Modern Warriors, in Chicago’s Little Village neighborhood as part of its R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t campaign. R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t raises awareness and creates open, thoughtful dialogue around online safety. 

Designed by two Chicago artists and mothers, Delilah “Zena” Salgado and Gloria “Gloe” Talamantes, the mural is intended to provoke thought and spark conversation among community members – including adults and teens – about safety in the digital world.


About the project

The McCain Institute and the Chicago Public Arts Group were joined at the event by former Chicago Bears Running Back and NFL veteran Matt Forté, and representatives from the Office of the Chicago Mayor, award winning community artists, and the Instituto Health Sciences Career Academy. Forté, a Chicago resident and father of four, emphasized the importance of having open and honest conversations with kids about staying safe online. 

“As a father, I’m proud to stand with the R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t campaign in promoting a safer online experience for our children. With kids spending more time online than ever before, its important they know how to use the platforms safely and what to watch out for.” said Matt Forté, former Chicago Bears running back. “We also know that racial minorities are disproportionately at risk of exploitation, that’s why awareness campaigns like this are crucial to ensuring those most vulnerable have the tools and resources to keep themselves and their loved ones safe.”

“A public art mural is a powerful form of communication to our youth and families to provoke thought, conversation and catalyze change,” says Chantal Healey, executive director of Chicago Public Art Group.  “We hope this mural starts a conversation about online safety so that we can protect our youth from harmful online grooming and predators.”

“By involving the local community in every step of the mural process, from design to production, we create space to begin having those difficult conversations, and take the first steps towards changing the way we look at and respond to online exploitation,” says Kelsey Syms, Program Manager, Combatting Human Trafficking at the McCain Institute.

The R.E.A.L Friends Don’t campaign increases awareness and educates parents, caregivers, and young people about online safety, and empowers parents to protect their children from harmful content, grooming, or online exploitation. The unveiling of the mural comes on the heels of a four-city R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t billboard press tour in Texas, where billboards are expected to reach more than 100 million Texans by the end of this year.

Artist’s Statement

Modern Warriors
Gloria “Gloe” Talamantes and Delilah “Zena” Salgado
2021

As kids’ and teens’ identities and digital lives become inextricably interwoven it is more important than ever to create space to begin having open and honest conversations about online safety. The McCain Institute’s R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t campaign is sparking a nationwide conversation utilizing art as a tool to engage parents, caregivers, young people, and communities at large in this important dialogue. 

Located in the heart of Chicago’s Little Village, and home to one of the youngest populations in the city, Modern Warriors is a colorful representation of the physical and spiritual safeguards that exist to protect young people in the digital age. Artists Gloe and Zena’s use of vibrant colors and incorporation of folkloric art, indigenous art, and graffiti culture, stimulate the psyche of the viewer, igniting interest and conversation about the mural and its deeper meaning. 

The jaguar has long been considered a symbol of fierceness and strength in the indigenous communities of Mexico and Latin America, believed to move throughout the world and see through the darkness. The jaguar headdress serves as a communal spirit, reminding the young figures of the fierceness and power they possess when it comes to facing the dangers that exist online. 

Known for its purity and undeniable beauty even in the murkiest of waters, the lotus signifies the resiliency and strength that youth possess. The placement of the flowers is positioned to both nurture and protect the two young figures who sit entranced by their devices and serve as a reminder of the “real” world just outside. 

Often used in urban street culture among inner-city youth, the term “I have your back” is an everyday reminder to support and look out for one-another. Modern Warriors serves as a symbol to residents that through family and community we are a village, and it takes a village to raise and protect our young people. 

Modern Warriors was co-designed by lead artists Gloria “Gloe” Talamantes and Delilah “Zena” Salgado with support from assisting artists, Ashley Busee, Izze Ortiz, and Sandra Antongiorgi. Students from the Instituto Health Science Career Academy were instrumental in the design process. 

About the McCain Institute for International Leadership at Arizona State University

Inspired by the character-driven leadership of Sen. John S. McCain and his family’s legacy of public service, the McCain Institute fights to advance freedom, prosperity, security and human dignity for all Americans and the world. 

About Arizona State University

Arizona State University has developed a new model for the American research university, creating an institution that is committed to access, excellence and impact. ASU measures itself by those it includes, not by those it excludes. As the prototype for a New American University, ASU pursues research that contributes to the public good, and ASU assumes major responsibility for the economic, social and cultural vitality of the communities that surround it.

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Online safety billboards expand across the state of Texas

October 29, 2021 by Kelsey Syms

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Online safety billboards expand across the state of Texas

The McCain Institute is proud to wrap up a four-stop unveiling of its R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t billboard campaign across the state of Texas. These billboards are central to the McCain Institute’s R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t online safety campaign and are expected to reach over 100 million Texans by the end of this year.           


About the project

The four-day tour featured events and billboard unveilings in Laredo, Lubbock, Grand Prairie and Humble County, TX. Speakers at each stop included representatives from local law enforcement agencies, members of Governor Abbott’s Child Sex Trafficking Team, representatives from the Outdoor Advertising Association of Texas, as well as local community leaders and stakeholders.

“We know that not all parents may see our messages on social media or on our website. Billboards – like those you see across the state of Texas – are going to help get the R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t message in front of millions of additional people,” said Kelsey Syms, McCain Institute Combatting Human Trafficking Program Manager. “By incorporating a holistic outreach approach, we can begin to better prevent and respond to cases of online exploitation and enticement.” 

“I don’t think parents realize what is out there on social media and what children actually have access to.” Says Lieutenant Leath McClure with the Lubbock Police Department. “I would encourage them to pay attention, check what they are doing, see what they are on, what they are looking at, check their history, be involved.” 

The R.E.A.L Friends Don’t campaign arms parents and caregivers with simple, actionable tools to help kids navigate their online experiences and protect them from potentially harmful relationships or grooming. Through a partnership with the Office of Governor, the Outdoor Advertising Association of Texas, and the McCain Institute, R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t has launched print and digital billboards across the state to educate Texans about online safety and ensure parents and caregivers have the resources they need to start the conversation with their children about staying safe online, as well as where to turn if something does go wrong. The billboards, with messages in both Spanish and English, will be broadcast throughout Texas now through the end of the year. 

For more coverage, see KCBD’s report.

About the McCain Institute for International Leadership at Arizona State University

Inspired by the character-driven leadership of Sen. John S. McCain and his family’s legacy of public service, the McCain Institute fights to advance freedom, prosperity, security and human dignity for all Americans and the world. 

About Arizona State University

Arizona State University has developed a new model for the American research university, creating an institution that is committed to access, excellence and impact. ASU measures itself by those it includes, not by those it excludes. As the prototype for a New American University, ASU pursues research that contributes to the public good, and ASU assumes major responsibility for the economic, social and cultural vitality of the communities that surround it.



R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t unveils billboards in San Antonio

July 30, 2021 by Kelsey Syms

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R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t unveils billboards in San Antonio

The McCain Institute unveiled new billboards as part of an expansion of the nationwide online child safety campaign, R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t. The out-of-home advertising portion of the campaign is expected to reach 180+ million Texans in over 70 cities across the state, raising awareness about online safety and child exploitation 


About the project

The R.E.A.L Friends Don’t campaign increases awareness and equips parents and caregivers with the tools and resources to help kids navigate their online experiences and protect them from potentially harmful relationship or grooming. Recognizing the disproportionate impact that exploitation and trafficking has on racial minorities, the McCain Institute has taken extra steps to ensure the campaign reaches those most at risk. “A one size fits all approach does not work for this type of issue, and we are committed to ensuring that all parents and caregivers—not only those with the ability to engage with our content online—have access to this important safety information,” said Kristen Abrams, senior director of the McCain Institute’s Combatting Human Trafficking program. 

Through a partnership with the Outdoor Advertising Association of Texas and the Office of the Governor, R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t launched print and digital billboards across the state to educate Texans about online safety and ensure parents and caregivers have the resources they need to start the conversation with their children about staying safe online, as well as where to turn if something does go wrong. The billboards, with messages in both Spanish and English, will be broadcast throughout Texas through the end of the year. 

About the McCain Institute for International Leadership at Arizona State University

Inspired by the character-driven leadership of Sen. John S. McCain and his family’s legacy of public service, the McCain Institute fights to advance freedom, prosperity, security and human dignity for all Americans and the world. 

About Arizona State University

Arizona State University has developed a new model for the American research university, creating an institution that is committed to access, excellence and impact. ASU measures itself by those it includes, not by those it excludes. As the prototype for a New American University, ASU pursues research that contributes to the public good, and ASU assumes major responsibility for the economic, social and cultural vitality of the communities that surround it.



McCain Institute launches online safety campaign

December 15, 2020 by Kelsey Syms

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McCain Institute launches online safety campaign

The McCain Institute for International Leadership is proud to reaffirm its commitment to combatting human trafficking and exploitation by launching R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t, a national media campaign to increase awareness and educate parents and caregivers about online safety. 


About the project

One of the many consequences of the COVID-19 pandemic has been the sharp increase in the number of hours that school-age children spend online. Whether it’s schooling, connecting with friends, gaming or using social media, so much of our children’s world has shifted to a virtual environment. This creates new challenges for parents; namely, how to keep school-age children safe online and away from potentially dangerous content or connecting with individuals looking to exploit a young person. 

R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t aims to address these challenges by providing parents and caregivers with the tools and resources they need to start the conversation with their children about staying safe online, as well as where to turn if something does go wrong. 

“Parents and caregivers must understand the social media and gaming platforms that their children are using so that they are able to help set appropriate safety measures and have a meaningful conversation about online safety,” said Kristen Abrams, senior director of the McCain Institute’s Combatting Human Trafficking program. “The McCain Institute has approached this campaign in an action-oriented way, arming parents with simple steps to take to help keep kids away from those attempting to manipulate or exploit them.”

With new stay-at-home orders rolling out across the country and online learning continuing into the winter and spring, it is expected the vulnerabilities faced by many will be exacerbated. Because racial minorities are more likely to be victims of sex and/or labor trafficking, R.E.A.L. Friends Don’t is focusing its resources on reaching African American and Latinx families. 

To learn more about the campaign, please visit: www.realfriendsdont.org or follow us on social media @realfriendsdont 

About the Combatting Human Trafficking Program

Through innovative programs, collaborative partnerships and policy advocacy, the McCain Institute’s Combatting Human Trafficking program drives systemic change and implements comprehensive, action-based solutions to prevent and end all forms of modern slavery in the U.S. and around the world. 

About the McCain Institute for International Leadership at Arizona State University

Inspired by the character-driven leadership of Senator John McCain and his family’s legacy of public service, the McCain Institute implements programs and initiatives to make a difference in people’s lives across a range of critical areas: leadership development, human rights, rule of law, national security, counterterrorism and combatting human trafficking.

Headquartered in Washington, D.C., the Institute is proudly part of ASU, the largest public university in America– ranked #1 in innovation for six years running.


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